How to Know You Are Never Alone

Updated: May 21, 2020

Alone is a mind concept, it's made up, it's not true. You are never alone. You are connected to a universal power that is infinite and loves you for who you are right now.

If you have ever struggled with loneliness you know that it can be debilitating. I have spent most of my adult life strategizing and manipulating circumstances to make sure I never end up alone. Frankly, it's been exhausting. I am ready to give it up. I surrender!

I do have a reference for the opposite feeling to loneliness. I remember feeling totally connected and loved. As a child I spend most of my time physically alone, but never feeling alone. I know the difference is only one thought away, ok more like 100,000 thoughts away...When we start to think about what it means to be alone, we ruminate, and we create false stories.

If you don't have the option to connect to another human being in your time of loneliness, connect to nature. Today, I went for a walk and I instantly felt that strong presence of connection. As I watched the snow fall and the river flow, I felt completely safe, loved and I knew in my heart I am never alone.

How does loneliness creep in?

If we are never truly alone, how come we feel the unbearable sting of loneliness?

In my experience it begins with a lack of connection. Humans have a primary need to feel connected, to be part of a tribe, to be part of the universe. Any life experience that creates a sense of rejection, that breaks a connection will result in feeling alone. It can be a temporary emotion or it can become part of your story...the difference lies in how you think, or what you think, and really for how long you think it.

I first felt loneliness after I moved away from nature and felt rejected by my peers. Immigrant kids were really made fun when I moved to Canada, I honestly hope that it is not so prevalent now.

I was deeply rooted and connected to nature in Portugal as I spent most of my days amongst the trees, the insects and the land. I didn't question the meaning of life, I was just being. I realize I was a child and I didn't have a lot to contemplate. As an adult I find so much peace in remembering what it was like to just be.