Updated: May 21, 2020
We don't know how long we will live, we do know we are alive right now. We must make conscious decisions to live a life free of regrets.
How many times have you heard a story about someone reaching the end of their life full of regrets? I am guessing at least a few.
Have their stories impacted how you live your life right now? If not, here is another chance to start now.
I believe there are no coincidences and the universe does not make mistakes. You are reading this now for a reason. You can live a life with the intention of no regrets.
Here is how...
1. Define what is nonnegotiable.
This is the most powerful exercise you will ever do in your life. Get a pen and some paper. Sit in a quite space and allow for the answers to this question to show up for you and then start writing.The question - What is nonnegotiable for me in my life?
I will share my nonnegotiable with you in an effort to get your creative juices flowing. My number one nonnegotiable is time with my kids. The set time I have allocated for them each week, the priority of dropping them off at school an Want to add a caption to this image? Click the Settings icon. d picking them up. For many years, I have struggled with the idea of going back to corporate work. Once I wrote down my number one nonnegotiable, I was able to release this thought. I will never go back to a work environment that does not allow me the flexibility to spend the time I have allocated for my kids.
Once you define what is nonnegotiable, you will gain clarity on what is negotiable. There will be many things that are negotiable, lots of options and other avenues will show up. You will gain the clarity to make the right decision for you without validating your highest priorities.
2. Learn to access intuition.
Intuition is your inner voice, your gut feelings, something instinctual that tells you how you feel. We are mostly used to using logic and reason to investigate and make decisions. Using your intuition to make decisions allows you to tap into your true self. Often, your conditioned mind can trick you with fear and keep you from accessing your true feelings.
Developing your intuitive sense takes practice. The first step is to be aware that you can access your intuition, then start to pay attention to your gut feelings. You don't have to act on your feelings at first if you don't trust. You can take the time to observer and allow the trust for your intuitive sense to develop organically.
3. Make love a priority.
This one may seem simple. And it's not. Sure it's easy to love those that are we perceive as being loving and kind to us. However, loving those we believe have done us wrong is a whole other matter. In fact, that takes work. It requires specific intention, and often times you won't feel like doing it.
Only you will know where you are withholding your love. You many need to do some forgiveness work to move passed resentment and into love. Consider this question:
4. Take educated risks.
Being afraid of taking risks is a normal human condition. This is why I am saying take an educated risk. It's ok to do some investigative work and write out your fears, consider which fears are valid and evaluate the worse case scenario. Often, when you expose the fears you will see that many of them can be mitigated and the worse case scenarios can be avoided with the right actions.
Taking a risk that you have logically worked thru and that your intuitive senses are guiding you to do can be one of your greatest accomplishments in life. And if you completely trust your intuition and don't need to evaluate logic, good for you. Some of us, still need a sprinkle of logic and that's ok too.
5. Save your tomorrows for tomorrow.
When your mind is worrying about the future, you miss out on the presence of today. It can be difficult to give up worrying because it's usually a lifelong pattern of thinking that's become so automatic you're not even completely aware of it.
Often, what keeps you stuck in the pattern of worrying is the belief that worrying protects you in some way and that worrying will lead you to find solutions to problems. If you want to stop the pattern of worry, you will need to let go of the belief that worrying serves a positive purpose. Once you truly stand in that awareness, you will worry less and less over time.
6. Practice appreciation.
The word “appreciate” has two distinct meanings: 1. being grateful and 2. an increase in value. What you appreciate will appreciate. In other words, when you consciously tune into what you are grateful for, that which you focus on will increase in value.
As humans we tend to take things for granted. It is our tendency to overlook the value of what we have in our lives until its taken away from us. This is easily solved with a practice of appreciation.
7. Be willing to forgive.
Forgiveness is first and foremost for you. It is not about letting another person off the hook or condoning whatever they may have done to you. It is about releasing thoughts of bitterness and resentment.
Forgiveness is also necessary to make love a priority. You will never regret a moment of love. NEVER.
8. Add a pinch of patience and a dash of kindness.
Every single action above requires patience. Any time you decide you are going to change something in your life, you will need to exercise patience. There is not much that changes overnight...change takes time. The mind will most likely resist the change which will add even more time for the change you are attempting to take effect.
Just as you will never regret a moment of love, you will certainly never regret a moment of kindness. When you act in kindness your brain is wired to give you pleasure. Research shows that acts of kindness increases happiness, life satisfaction, and self-esteem. So why not deliberately add kindness as a conscious action in every day life.
Which of these 8 ways to live a regret free life do you find to be most challenging? Share your insights in the comment section below.
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Wishing you love, joy and peace,