How to Not Let Perfect Get in the Way of Better

Updated: May 21, 2020

Human evolution is about progress not perfection. Let go of the suffocating grip of expectation to rise to the best version of yourself.

Imagine for a moment what it would be like to let go of the suffocating grip of expectation. What if you accepted yourself as you are right now. What if you stopped comparing yourself to others, stopped judging yourself, stopped blaming yourself...what would your life be like?

Sadly, most of us would fall into a state of anxiety when considering the scenario above. I have witnessed many clients almost fall apart when considering self acceptance.


Well, it's simple. We have deep programming to hold onto comparisons, judgements and expectations. In large part, we believe that if we put aside all the "shoulds" and the expectations of self that we would stop evolving, that we would not get what we want.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

The belief that if we go easy on ourselves, we would not strive for what we want is prevalent in our society. We have been conditioned to work hard, to see our flaws, to not settle, to forge ahead against all odds. We are hooked on feeling bad about ourselves as motivation towards success.

Think for a moment of something you are wanting to change in your life right now.

Go ahead...I'll pause and wait for you.

Now let's get real...Be honest with yourself when answering these questions.

  1. Are you motivated to change because you want to be better?

  2. Are y